Thoughts Become Things


Thoughts become things.

What does one do with that information? You could do nothing with it. All of us grew up being taught a set of default thoughts that pretty much shape our lives. When you do nothing with the idea that thoughts become things, your life may not look appreciably different than that of your parents. Default thinking explains why children of privileged people become privileged as adults, and children of poor people tend to stay in that world, perhaps improving only slightly generation by generation.

Or you could take the information and test it. What if I isolate my personal thoughts and settle on the ones that are not part of the default set? Only when people break the default mold handed to them by their parents do they find themselves experiencing a different sort of life than their default thoughts were capable of producing.

IMG_7319So yes, an under-privilege person can be come privileged. A bricklayer’s daughter can earn a PhD and become a college Dean. An immigrant’s child can become President of the United States. A son of a millionaire can become the voice of justice who speaks out for the poor and lifts the aspirations of millions.

In each case the person who achieved the unexpected did so by breaking their default thought mold.

Thoughts become things. What can you do with this information? Here is an easily applicable strategy.

  1. Listen to your own thoughts.
  2. Give them credence (believe them).
  3. Talk them out with a confidant who also gives credence to your thoughts (a coach).
  4. Decide to bring your thought into existence.
  5. Act.

This is simplistic, yet not simple. Contact me here if you want to learn how a short coaching program can get you on the course you desire for your life.

 

 

Fire Up Your Vibrators, People!

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The universe’s language is vibration. Scientists and physicists have shown conclusively that everything, without exception, vibrates. They have noted that they can view objects that appear solid and stationary through a microcope and observe that there is recordable movement.

It is also an inviolable truth that like attracts like. Fire attracts fire, water attracts water, love attracts love, war attracts war –– to name a few examples.

At a personal level, what matters is the vibration upon which we fix our thoughts.

I went through a phase when every driver on the road who did one certain thing stimulated frustration in me over the rush they were in. Then someone pointed out to me that I was the one in a rush, which explained why I continually focused on the behavior of drivers who slowed me down by forcing me to react to their carelessness or slow-pokery. I was noticing that which was in harmony with what I didn’t want. So I got more of what I didn’t want.

In a positive example, the one thought that transformed the life and love experience of this lonely, divorced man was my fixation on one simple idea. “The love you are looking for is also looking for you.”

That singular, simple belief made it exceedingly easy to know when I met the one. I immediately felt that we were harmonized –– vibrating in sync. And in the last 18 months it has proven to be true, over and over again.

Recall the axiom that music is the universal language. That is a saying that no one questions. Because music is nothing if not vibration.

We choose music based on how we feel. We also use music to change our emotional state.

Any planning we do for getting something we want to come our way begins with vibration. Think of your life as a melody line. The harmonies and accompaniment must join the melody you are singing. Change the melody and new harmonious accompaniment will join it.

Someone said that our lives are loudspeakers, giving out a vibration. Every experience, location and thing outside of us are also loudspeakers that broacast vibration, or frequencies. If you look at your life right now, whatever and whoever is around you, you see the perfect alignment of vibration with the thoughts and conditions you fixate upon. It already exists.

While you are not in control of what comes to you, you are in control of what you fixate on. Fixation shows up in our thinking, our words, our actions and our feelings. Those four things are the component parts of the vibration you are putting out. At the same time, people, places and things are streaming toward you in alignment with your loudspeaker’s vibration. That which you fixate on will keep showing up.

This is not determinism, however. Because the final gateway through which everything must pass to enter your experience is permission –– permission that only you can grant. You get to decide what outside-of-you forces to align with. You grant permission for love or lack of it, prosperity or lack of it, patience or lack of it, employment or lack of it and so on.

Camillo Loken puts it more succinctly: “thoughts really are things… thinking a thought produces the energy and the substance needed for it to exist by itself. Even though most thoughts are short-lived those we put effort into, focus on, or think intensely about become the “climate” or atmosphere we live in.” (Make a Ripple – Make a Difference, 2014)

Imagine a cool autumn morning. The summer temperatures have subsided and the furnace is not yet turned on. You feel the chill inside your home. You want to feel warm. Your’re on the couch in your family room completing work on your computer. You knew this day would come. While you sit there feeling the chill, your thoughts are drawn to find a solution for your being cold. Then you realize, it is right there in front of you. The fireplace. The wood. The matches. All is harmony. Your thought leads to effort. Your effort leads to a nice, warming flame in your fireplace.

When we fix our thoughts on something, we create the climate in which resources appear and align as potential for us to produce what we are thinking about. Sometimes great change happens quickly, because we permit it. Other times change is personally challenging because we are resisting it –– not granting permission for installation of a new reality.

I picked this simple illustration to show you that it is not that hard to visualize change once you begin to notice the resouces lining up to give you what you want. When the temperature was eighty degrees a few days ago, you didn’t even notice the fireplace, the wood stacked in the corner from last winter and the matches on the mantle.

We see and notice only that which is useful to us, that which we perceive will help us feel better. Even then, the aligned resources that have appeared for our comfort need to be employed. To revisit my fireplace illustration, you must get off the couch and light the fire if you want that comforting warmth to enfold you.

In my past, when I have read about these ideas, I tended to be hard on myself with beliefs that I was responsible for creating certain crummy situations. But this is not about blaming yourself. Instead, make a choice to engage your thoughts and emotions to broadcast a vibrational climate that aligns with the quality of life you hope to have. You know it works. The proof is all around you. Grant yourself permission to do something different, to feel something new and wonderful. Let the attraction and alignment begin!

3 Reasons You May Not Be Living Fully

Dance with your dreams

 

 

 

 

 

 

This short video is about our least favorite subject. And also the most important subject. Try the exercise at 2:10. I’d love for you to tell me what you came up with.

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Failure Is Not an Option, Or Is It?

One of my favorite television shows is HGTV’s Flip or Flop. It is about a married couple, Tarek and Christina, who are in the house flipping business. They take huge financial risks and often experience huge financial rewards because of it.

In fact that is one of their core beliefs: The size of the risk determines the size of the reward.

The other core belief, which Christina articulates at the beginning of every episode: Failure is not an option.

I have heard many successful people use that affirmation, and I respect their point of view. Yet something has always bothered me about it. Today I figured out what that is. I think they are not articulating something that underlies their success.

The fact that they are willing to put everything on the line for their project strongly suggests that they are, in fact, willing to fail.

What they are not saying, but they intuitively know, is the inverse of their core belief about huge risk, huge reward.

Huge risk can also mean huge loss.

Failure and success are not accomplished fates. They exist on a continuum of possibility and probability. And both leave clues.

To believe that failure is not an option is to proactively and actively move the project to success through successive correct choices based on our personal collection of clues about success and failure. Over time, we learn to stack the deck in our favor. Even though we are willing to fail, we probably won’t.

As I have watched successive seasons of Flip or Flop, I have seen Tarek and Christina mature in their deciding process and trust their choices more and more. For them, failure is less and less an option because they are confidently choosing success. Though the possibility of failure exists, they fear it less because they are continually turning up the dial toward success.

Henry David Thoreau, who wandered the environs of Walden Pond more than two-hundred years ago knew this when he wrote, “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.”

To which I add, be willing to fail and you increase the chance that you will succeed.

 

 

6 Ways to Tame the Social Media Beast Without Killing It

 

Since the invention of the television, people have had a growing love affair with screens of all shapes and sizes.

All along our march toward bigger and better, and smaller and better screens some voices have been decrying the dangers of addiction to the various iterations of screendom.

To call it addiction seems to trivialize true substance addiction. Aren’t we also addicted to paved roads and telephones? These, along with our screens are an unavoidable part of life.

If we’re honest, we must admit that for many of us, screen time consumes large portions of our day. If you combine all the screens in your life it may be as high as twelve hour a day.  Yikes!

Once a week or so, I see a Facebook status from one person or another announcing their renouncing of Facebook to focus on more important things such as God and family.

Maybe it’s a religious trend. Last Sunday the pastor of a prominent evangelical church published a letter that seemed to suggest that his overuse of social media (along with other missteps) required that he hire additional pastors to make him more accountable.

In another case, one  jazz musician, Sinj Clarke blamed screen addiction for throwing his musical passion off track. (Source)

But maybe the screen time is not the real issue. Could it be that we are Narcissus, peering into the pond only to behold the reflection of our own image staring back at us? Oh, how we love that image. Oh, how unsatisfying to realize it cannot return the love we seek. And yet, we cannot avert our eyes. It is as though we seek permission in the approval of friends and followers to love ourselves.

When we measure our own worth in the currency of likes and retweets, it is time to rethink our involvement in social media.

Perhaps that unsatisfying experience is what motivates people to try and swear off social media. If a radical departure is what you need, then do it. For the rest of us, a taming of the beast might be just the thing we need. Here are some ideas.

1. Figure out your life purpose and make your social media involvement serve that purpose. Here is a TedTalk to help you get started.

2. Keep a list of key activities that are more important to you than scrolling through your social media feed. Do it now, instead of scrolling your feed.

Next time you’re tempted to blow twenty minutes on Facebook, do one of the activities on your list. You could learn a language. Lean to draw. Learn to play the ukelele. Look for a better job.

3. Say no to social media when you’re driving, eating with others, being paid to do your job or having sex. Too bad I had to say that.

4. One screen at a time. If you have choose which screen to attend to, you might watch less TV.

5. Schedule your screen time. When you do log on, check in or connect on social media, be kind, be brief and be gone.

6. If there is a choice between mindless scrolling and an actual conversation, choose the conversation. The person in front of you is far more interested in what you have to say than the few hundred who would forget you if they never saw your status updates.